This is the life of a woman….
You start dating someone people immediately ask “When are you going to get married?”
You get engaged and that day people ask, “Do you have a date?”
You get married and ON YOUR WEDDING DAY and every day thereafter people ask “When are you going to have kids?”
You get pregnant people ask, “When are you due and are you finding out what you are having?”You find out the sex and immediately people ask “What are you going to name him/her?”
I personally have experienced all these stages in my life. I’m sure after you have the baby the next question is, “Are you going to have any more kids?” but I haven’t reached that yet, so at this point I can only speak to those I know, in particular the last one of the name of my unborn son.
Here is the deal with names…I for one am very nervous about naming this kid. I spoke in my last blog post about how this is a BIG deal and you can’t mess it up (unfortunately a lot of society does mess this up for their children) but I am taking my naming responsibility VERY serious. I decided quite early in this process that I wasn’t going to tell anyone what we were thinking in terms of names. For example the following is an actual conversation I had with my mother (NONE of this is dramatized, it is all word for word)
Mom- “So what are some names you have picked out?”
Me- “We aren’t telling people because we don’t want to hear opinions, etc.”
Mom- “Oh yea, that’s a good idea. So what are the names?”
Me- “I just said, I’m not telling”
Mom- “Well that doesn’t include ME! You have to tell me!!” (her voice rises with anticipation and fear that I may, actually not tell her)
Me- “Mom, I don’t care about your opinion and I know you will have something to say about every name I mention.”
Mom- “Well what if you choose a name of someone I absolutely HATE!!!???”
I then proceeded to tell my mother I really don’t care if the name we choose for our child is someone who she “absolutely HATES” and this is the exact reason why I didn’t want to tell her the options anyways. I ended up giving her our list and she muttered a few comments about each of them.
In our house the name game goes something like this- I ramble off names that just come in my head or I read somewhere ect. Barry says one of two things- 1.) yea, that’s ok or 2.) Are you freaking crazy!!!! Well I mean he hasn’t given me any suggestions. I tell him it’s important to say the name out loud and think about it going with our last name, Roof. He thinks I’m crazy. In fact the only name he has suggested is Stone. Stone Roof. Seriously. I can’t have a kid named Stone Roof. He thinks I am being dramatic and no one would think it is weird. I said, you vetoed 100’s of names I have given, I am using my nix on Stone.
I told him we have to think about the initials so they don’t spell something strange, that we need to think of nicknames the kid could have. He proceeds to tell me I’m crazy. Yea, because Stone Roof would NEVER get made fun of. We do have a list of about 8 names. I told him once we get about 10 maybe we could then go through the list and then each mark off ones we don’t care for to hopefully be left with one stellar name that will lend itself to be a strong powerful man in the future! I’m starting to think we may be in the delivery room still arguing over a name….
Things I promise about the name of Baby Boy Roof
– It won’t be some made up name put together by our names like Barblake.
– We won’t spell the name some STUPID way that parents do these days and have our poor kid having to pronounce his name to everyone because we decided to use a K instead of a C and a Y instead of an E or a J instead of some other letter.
– I won’t name him one thing and then tell everyone he goes by something TOTALLY random like his name is John Smith Roof and we are calling him Buddy.- And I try REALLY hard mom, not to name him the name of someone you “absolutely HATE” (maybe)